For over 16 years my vocation and passion is helping couples end their partnership with dignity, empathy and respect. My personal motto for my service to you is:
if you love someone, set them free – with kindness
Below are some of the basic precepts and purposes of Matrimonial Mediation, followed by frequently asked questions. Have a question? Please ask! I will be delighted to get back to you in a timely manner.
Mutually Satisfactory Outcomes
Parties are generally more satisfied with solutions that have been mutually agreed upon, as opposed to solutions that are imposed by a court and laws without regards for couple’s unique circumstances. My belief is that the couples themselves are the best qualified to determine, with my help, the agreements that work in their families’ best interests. Mediated settlements are able to address both legal and extra-legal issues. Agreement covers procedural and psychological issues that are not necessarily susceptible to legal determination. The parties tailor their settlement to their particular situation.
Preservation of an Ongoing Relationship or Termination of a Relationship in a More Amicable Way
Many disputes occur in the context of relationships that will continue over future years. A mediated settlement that addresses all parties' interests can often preserve a working relationship in ways that would not be possible in a win/lose decision-making procedure. Mediation can also make the termination of a relationship more amicable.
Workable and Implementable Decisions
Parties who mediate their differences are able to attend to the fine details of implementation. Negotiated or mediated agreements can include specially tailored procedures for how the decisions will be carried out. This fact often enhances the likelihood that parties will actually comply with the terms of the settlement.
Decisions that Survive Over Time
Mediated settlements tend to hold up over time, and if a later dispute results, the parties are more likely to utilize a cooperative forum of problem-solving to resolve their differences than to pursue an adversarial alternative.
How much does it cost?
Several variables are considered when it comes to cost, most notably the complexity of your situation in terms of children, assets, joint investments, etc. I offer your initial phone consultation at no charge, and will explain the fee structure at that time. At the end of the initial session I will be able to tell you more specifically what you can expect your final cost to be.
What is the rate of success with mediation?
Based on more 16 years of experience in matrimonial mediation, it is close to 99 percent. Couples who choose mediation instead of litigation typically already have the basic groundwork of cooperation to build upon. It can also happen that during the process they discover that the hurt/anger/resentment is still too powerful to work productively toward the dissolution of the union in this format.
How much time before I can be separated legally?
You and your spouse determine the length of time it takes by cooperating with one another and with me in providing necessary financial information by law required to finalize your agreement. I have worked with out of town couples through email/phone calls over a period of several months, before couples came in to pick up for a review or to sign. The bottom line is that, I customize based on your unique circumstances in terms of you and your spouse’s timeframes and schedules.